Hey man, I'm sorry I made you feel bad. I did not choose my words in that section well, and I will expand upon what I was trying to convey.
When I made the short post, we had just had the first conversation about Sheoldred barely a week before. My opinion had not changed, and I did not want to rehash the conversation that had just occurred. I knew Velrun had already seen my previous postings on the subject, and given his tendency to attack me for very weird subjective reasons, such as the
Ponder Border Debacle, I did not want to open myself up to another situation like that. So, I purposefully made a short post that didn't have any analysis or substance specifically to shut off further discussion. My goal was to nip an unpleasant situation in the bud.
Your post, which was the next post in the thread after the short post I made, started with the phrase "On the contrary," which made me think that you were directly responding to what I had to say. I knew there was a high probability you had seen my opinions on the card already
since you reacted to both of the posts I was first responding to in the other thread.
Then you made a bunch of comments that felt like digs at people who don't have Cubes that function similarly to yours. Specifically:
I read these lines and thought you were basically telling me that:
–This is a response to what I had said previously.
–My Cube is boring.
–Considering tempo losses due to removal is bad design.
–My removal suite is unhealthy and isn't thoughtful.
–Consistent decks make a format less fun.
And that's just extremely offensive. I felt like you were saying my Cube was bad and I was a bad designer for not wanting to play the same card as you. I understand now reading your response to my post in this thread that this was not necessarily your intention. Unfortunately, I did not understand what you meant when I read your post, and it made me feel really bad.
Ultimately I chose not to respond because I didn't want to fight with you over your opinions, which I saw as hurtful attacks.
And I agree! But it's very easy for a disagreement to turn into a fight. I really do not like fighting and I want to avoid having fights about my hobby.
I had a huge issue with the harsher discourse from other parties with many members around here, but I avoided getting involved in any of the more hostile engagements on the forums because I
fundamentally did not want to hurt any feelings or get into any real fights. However, I did not stay silent about the topic behind the scenes. I had many private conversations with people like
@Onderzeeboot and
@landofMordor to help come up with a solution to resolve the conflict, and I even had an almost hour long discord call with
@Jason Waddell sharing my opinions on the events that unfolded. I was commited to trying to find a way that the conflict could be resolved in a way that would allow everyone to coexist, but that unfortunately never came to pass. Ultimately I think Jason made the correct decision in chosing to ban the offending new user, because the majority of the conflict passed when that happened.
A lack of understanding was
literally the core of the issue. The new user was not willing to understand how to interact within the Riptide ecosystem. However, as I saw it, some seasoned users weren't willing to see the other opinions being expressed. I wasn't aware of any of the reddit drama when these events were unfolding, so to me it seemed like people were ganging up on someone for saying some old cards weren't good for no reason. While this may not have been the case, it felt this way to me and a few other people who didn't know of the previous relationships between users.
I know at least one person left the forums for a year because of what happened.
When I look back on the events of last year, I feel like we were given a situation where we received a second, more aggressive Velrun. Instead of trying to understand how to communicate with that person, some members just kept starting fights with them until the moderators had no choice but to ban the newbie. While the banning was the best decision given the context, I still wonder wether or not it had to happen that way. We put up with a lot sometimes in order to accomidate users who are less sensitive or have poorer communications skills than is desirable on a platform like this. It takes time to learn the ins and outs of our community. I sometimes wonder if the events that unfolded wouldn't have happened if it wasn't for the provocations from some riptiders with a previous history with the user in question, or if this is a Velrun situation where the blow-ups and fighting would have happened regardless of what anyone did. Again, I think given what happened the correct choices were made by the moderation team, but I don't know if it
had to happen the way it did had we all been able to reach an understanding. And that's sad.
I'd like to close by using an analogy Jason used in our conversation regarding the events that happened last year. Jason said that having the negative user on the forums made people feel like there was a shark in the water looking to attack others for their opinions. And he was right, a lot of the conflcit went away when the user was banned. These days, I feel like there are sharks in the water looking to attack me whenever I say something they don't agree with. I find this distressing, as Riptide was once a safe place for me to explore Cube design without having to worry about getting dogpiled by people with different viewpoints. Since that has changed, I feel like I don't really have a Cube home anymore. It's very difficult, because while using the forums is significantly less fun and significantly more stressful than it used to be, I don't want more people to get banned when coexistence is possible. I think everyone can reach an understanding, but this takes time and work. For my part, I have been trying to avoid posting anything negative to help
cultivate positive discorse, avoid entering conversations about negative topics, and leave constructive comments when and where that makes sense. As we've seent this week, that alone isn't enough, but I think if I can make my relationship with the forums as positive as possible, it could improve the site as a whole.
So again, I would like to appologize to you for not reading your post about Sheoldred more charitably and choosing my words in my previous post here so poorly. I really hope we can resolve the issues that the forum has been having and create a better environment for everyone.